It didn’t take a lot, to reconnect that is.
Last week, I noticed Elka seemed a bit sad. There were moments when I worried about how she was coping with it all; this Big Sister Gig.
So, as often in my blogging life, I wrote about it, and it miraculously healed.
I put myself out there, just a little. I went with Elka to my Mum’s place, instead of sending her on her own. I took her to playgroup instead of sending her with a friend. I read a book with her. And another. From my breast feeding chair, we told each other stories, and where I could I engaged in her world.
So, with very little effort from me, we reconnected, and Elka found her way in the world as a Big Sister. No arm-pulling. Just kisses.
As we changed little Eve together this evening, Elka leaned in and kissed the baby’s forehead. Is it OK to kiss her? she asked me. Of course, I said, just give her space when she’s had enough. Elka held baby Eve’s little arm. I love you Baby Eve.
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November 9, 2012 at 12:17 am
So sweet 🙂
November 9, 2012 at 7:51 am
You’ve got this, Zanni!
November 9, 2012 at 8:19 am
It is wonderful that you noticed and took the time to reconnect. It obviously paid off. Attention is often the answer, sometimes I get too caught up in my own world.
November 9, 2012 at 9:21 am
Glad you have found an easy way to reconnect. It’s made me think more of how I can try to find time when I have number two. You’re a wonderfully present mum x
November 9, 2012 at 10:58 am
So gorgeous, Zan! She really is a loving big sister.xx
November 9, 2012 at 1:21 pm
So cute!
November 9, 2012 at 1:57 pm
How beautiful. That photo is gorgeous too. I am glad Elka is coping with the Big Sis Gig, speaking from experience it can be hard at times but so worth it!
November 9, 2012 at 1:58 pm
That should be speaking from the experience of being a Big Sis, not helping my child be a Big Sis (although hopefully one day!)
November 9, 2012 at 3:01 pm
Got that Kylez! x
November 9, 2012 at 2:12 pm
What a beautiful little girl and loving big sister! We’ve been through the big brother/big sister gigs a few times now and it is so important to give them their own special time. It must feel wonderful to feel reconnected.
November 9, 2012 at 2:12 pm
I love how forgiving and accepting children are. It’s really womderful that they can tolerate so much, in.cuding welcoming a whole new person into the family.
November 9, 2012 at 3:02 pm
They really are Jess. Children are amazing. xx
November 9, 2012 at 3:52 pm
How beautiful. They are going to have such a strong connection, you are doing an amazing job!
November 9, 2012 at 5:12 pm
That’s a beautiful post Zanni. I’m such a softie – it brought a tear to my eye (not joking). What a wonderful and thoughtful mum you are. Elka will be a wonderful big sister 🙂 xo
November 9, 2012 at 10:42 pm
They may seem like small things to us adults but they are obviously much larger and more important to little ones.
So happy your bumpy path has smoothed.
November 10, 2012 at 12:34 am
Beautiful! I have to constantly remind myself that it is very hard sometimes to be a big sister!
November 15, 2012 at 9:45 am
Could you please remove me from this posting? I am an old woman with no interest in babies or children. I can’t get out of linked in, because I can’t remember my password. This is my 2nd request